Things Men Should Know Before Marriage

Before marriage, men should clearly understand and openly discuss important aspects such as future life plans, financial stability, handling disagreements, thoughts about children, sense of responsibility, health check-ups, and horoscope matching (Jathaga Porutham). Experts agree that these factors play a crucial role in building a stable and happy married life.

In Tamil Matrimony (Varan Thedal – Groom Search), emotional maturity and preparedness are just as important as education and job profile.

Relationship & Emotional Readiness (Uravumurai & Manareethiyana Vishayangal)

Commitment (Urudhipaadu)

Marriage requires long-term commitment. A groom should be mentally prepared to:

• Stand by the relationship
• Work through problems instead of avoiding them
• Provide emotional security and trust to his wife

Open Communication (Thirandha Manadhudan Pesuthal)

Men should openly discuss:

• Life goals and future dreams
• Financial habits
• Family responsibilities
• Expectations from married life

Handling Conflicts (Pirachanaigalai Ethirkolluthal)

Disagreements are natural in marriage. It is important to:

• Face conflicts calmly
• Resolve issues through discussion
• Avoid silence, anger, or withdrawal

Health & Well-being (Udalnalam & Arokiyam)

Complete Health Check-up

Before marriage, men should undergo:

• General health screening
• Fertility-related tests
• Lifestyle-related health checks

Early detection helps avoid future stress and misunderstandings.

Financial Stability & Future Planning (Nidhi & Edhirkaala Thittam)

Financial Responsibility (Nidhi Poruppu)

A groom should have clarity on:

• Income and expenses
• Savings and investments
• Debt or loan commitments
• Joint or separate financial planning

Thoughts About Children (Kuzhandhaigal Patriya Ennam)

It is important to discuss:

• Whether to have children
• When to plan for children
• Parenting approach and values

Responsibilities & Expectations (Poruppugal & Edhirpaarppugal)

Household Responsibilities (Veettu Velai Poruppugal)

Modern marriages work better when:

• Household duties are shared
• Responsibilities are clearly discussed
• Mutual respect is maintained

Family Involvement (Kudumbathinarin Pangalippu)

Men should discuss:

• Relationship with both families
• Boundaries with parents and relatives
• Maintaining healthy in-law relationships

Horoscope & Compatibility (Jathagam Porutham)

In Tamil Marriage System, astrology is significant:

• Horoscope matching
• Dosham compatibility
• Mutual belief and understanding